Relationship Resources

I've curated these resources to help you deepen your understanding of attachment, improve your relationship, and prepare for therapy. These books, articles, and tools are grounded in evidence-based research.

Books by Dr. Sue Johnson

Dr. Sue Johnson is the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Her books are accessible, compassionate, and deeply grounded in research:

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

The most accessible introduction to EFT and attachment theory for couples. Perfect for gaining insight into your relationship patterns and learning how to reconnect.

Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships

A deeper dive into the science of attachment and how it shapes romantic love. Excellent for understanding why certain patterns emerge in relationships.

For those wanting scientific depth

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment

By Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. A comprehensive guide to understanding adult attachment styles and how they affect your love life.

Understanding attachment styles

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

By Dr. John Gottman. Research-based strategies for building and maintaining a strong, lasting relationship.

Relationship maintenance and growth

Articles & Information

These resources offer evidence-based information about attachment, relationships, and EFT:

International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
The official organization for EFT training and certification. Find therapists, research, and educational resources about EFT.
Psychology Today - Relationship Articles
Peer-reviewed articles on relationships, attachment, communication, and mental health written by licensed professionals.
The Gottman Institute
Research on relationships and marriage. Free resources, including assessments and articles on strengthening relationships.

Videos & Talks

Visual learning about EFT, attachment, and relationships:

Dr. Sue Johnson's TED Talks

Dr. Johnson has given several engaging talks on love, attachment, and how couples can reconnect. Search for her name on YouTube or TED.

The Gottman Institute YouTube Channel

Short, practical videos on communication, conflict resolution, and building intimacy in relationships.

Using These Resources

These resources are wonderful for individual learning and can deepen your understanding before therapy begins. Many couples find it helpful to:

• Read a book together and discuss your reactions
• Take an attachment style quiz and share results with your partner
• Watch a video or listen to an interview and journal about what resonates

However: These resources complement therapy; they're not a substitute. If you're experiencing relationship distress, reaching out to a therapist is the most effective step.

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